How Much Time Are We with Parents?

 UMAYYAH al-Kinani is a leader of his people. He has a child named Kilab. Kilab moved to Medina during the caliph Umar bin Khathab r.a. He stayed there for some time. One day, he met some friends and asked them about the best deeds in Islam. The friends replied: "Jihad." Kilab went to Umar and expressed his desire to join the war. Then Umar made him a soldier to fight with Persia. When Kilab's father found out about this, he held on to Kilab saying: "Don't leave your old father and old mother. We have educated you as a child, when we need you, you will leave us? "Kilab replied:" I left you two to do a good deed for me. " Then he went to war after his parents blessed him. However, he was separated from his group in the war and was late to return. Once, his father and mother sat under their palm trees. They saw a group of pigeons calling on their young children, while playing with their children. When he saw that, the grandfather (Kilab's old father) cried. When his wife saw his grandfather crying, he cried. Then, the grandfather became blind, because too many tears filled his eyes. When his old son was not seen returning home, he went to Umar ra and entered the mosque and said: "By Allah, Ibn Khathab, if you do not return my child to me, then I will pray for you in Arafat." Then Umar wrote a letter to Kilab. When Kilab came and faced him, Umar asked Kilab: "How far is your devotion to your father?" Kilab replied: "I always attach importance to it and fulfill its needs. If I want to give him milk, then I will go looking for camels with the most milk. I will make the camel calm and let it feel comfortable. Then, I washed my milk nipple until it was cold, then I milked the milk and gave the milk to my father. " Umar then told him to go home to meet his father. After that, a man came to Umar with a slumbering step. The man had lost his vision and bent his back. Umar asked him: "How are you, O Abu Kilab?" The grandfather replied: "As you see, Amir al-mu'minin." Umar asked: "What do you like the most today?" He replied: "I don't want anything today. The only thing I want is good, not bad. " Umar asked: "Is there anything else?" The grandfather replied: "No, I'm happy if Kilab, my child, with me, so I can smell it and hug it before I die." Umar cried and said: "You will get what you want , Insha Allah." Then, Umar told Kilab to go redden camel milk for his father, as he did before and send the milk to his father. He also did that then came by giving a vessel to Umar r.a. Umar took it and said: "Drink, O Abu Kilab." When Abu Kilab held the vessel and held it close to his mouth, he said: "By Allah, yes Amir al-mu'minin, I really smell the two hands of Kilab." Umar cried and said: "This Kilab is in front of you, we have brought it to you." Then he jumped towards his son and hugged him while crying. This made Umar and the people present cry. Then Umar said: "My child, take care of your parents and strive to serve both of them as long as they are still there. Then take care of your business after that. "*  MARILAH immediately devote to parents and make them happy at all times. Be like them - people who are second to none, before you realize one day a shocking news will come from those around you who say, "May God add merit to you. Your father or mother is dead. " Today, we find some people spend all their time outside the home. Once inside the house, he sits at his computer and completes school assignments, lectures, work, or spends all his time doing various sports and chatting with people who are known or unknown to him. When he passed in front of his parents, he said hello and went to do his activities. The dialogue between himself and his parents is as follows: Mother: "Sit down, let's have lunch Together." Child: "I have eaten outside. I am busy Now." Mother: "Let's have tea with us." Children: "God willing, for a moment. I go to the room and will come back soon. " Then, the child sits in his room completing his work and dissolves in the job. He forgot that his mother was waiting for him to talk to him. The busyness we face and the fast-moving rhythm that we are currently living in are the things that make the most of the walls of inter-generational separation or between parents and children. If coupled with selfishness, then the result is endless negligence and regret for the lost opportunity. We do not include time to talk to mom in our work schedule. So, when mom wants to talk to us, we pretend to give her time. Once the mother starts talking, there is a clear difference between our conversation and the conversation. In general, we ourselves end the conversation, because the time we have spent has run out. *