Despair is just a feeling of yours

When a person sees an obstacle between him and his goal, he becomes angry. Pessimism makes him angry at the outside world if he believes in his own ability to achieve goals. When there is a lack of such faith, people want to hurt themselves by being hostile towards themselves.

Of course, if you get frustrated again and again, even the fearless optimist will become fearful and will become distrustful. If our young man is repeatedly rejected by a girl like Mary, it may be that he will focus on his own faults without seeing the faults of others. Will become worried about themselves. On the other hand, if our shy boy repeatedly succeeds in his purpose, he will one day become confident.

The rare third-class man can also be thought of. There is no emotional turmoil in the mind of such a person, he is not angry with himself or Mary. To him this incident is a little annoying as the pen runs out of ink to write about, but nothing to worry about.

We need to go back to the chapter on the subject of conviction to explain the attitude of this third class person. Different people see the world differently. What is the third person's perception of the world so that he can easily overcome obstacles? In his world, there may be many ways to overcome obstacles. In the face of obstacles, he can choose various alternatives and no obstacle seems to be insurmountable in his work. His world is big. Besides, in that world he has probably succeeded in meeting all his self-centered needs. As a result, no failure seems important to him.

But how do we understand the importance of the goal, how do we differentiate between important and unimportant? The importance here is personal. Because desperate people are getting in the way of any goal. He is not upset that he could not join the dance.

Everyone will admit that the need for dignity and self-respect is not being met, if Kaishar's partner does not remember the date of the donation, then we feel deep failure. But as we get older, our social relationships expand. The field of curiosity expands. In such a situation our attitude is like that of a third class person.

A few years of experience downplay the problem,

Older people's self-confidence and stability are not easily lost by stifling emotions. Let me say here that we use the word ‘despair’ where the slightest hindrance deprives us of a sense of urgency.

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