WHEN TO ACCEPT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL
This post is specifically for the singles who are in courtship and intend to get married someday. This particular post will be a helpful guide.
Let me start this way, what I mean by "When to accept a marriage proposal". Lots of People have criteria they use but this particular post is for the Christian sisters out there who may be confused about what to do after a brother maybe in the church or a Christian group they belong to approaches them on marital issues.
Okay firstly I'll like us to separate the words.... marriage, and proposal
A marriage proposal is an event where one person in a relationship asks for the other's hand in marriage.[1] If accepted, it marks the initiation of engagement, a mutual promise of later marriage. It often has a ritual quality.
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So the proposal is that mushin mushin period when we are tempted to pop that question 🥳
Mind you we don't just get to that point...I'm sure there was a journey before that. And finally, you think it should happen 🙊
Marriage is an institution commissioned by God himself and naturally should be a thing of joy.
But what is the right way gan gan💁🏻♀️. In Gen 2. Where the first woman was created there was a reason.
Gen 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him".
God saw a vacuum in Adam's life, so obvious that HE had to do something on behalf of man. When do I say yes to a marriage proposal?
1) when does God approves of me to do so? One of the mistakes supposed children of God make which I have personally seen is trying to matchmake yourself.
When I was in school, a sister cord was engaged to a gen sec I think... because a sister can pray😂😂 I laugh in Spanish
Jer10:14 "Every man is brutish in his knowledge"
Another version says ... Every man is stupid and devoid of knowledge
Forget the number of hours you pray....the Holy Spirit is still senior you forget🙃.
Adam was prepared for the coming of the woman. He had God's presence, he had handwork, he had a beautiful garden and mostly he allowed God to make the decisions.
Until you allow God to make the decisions, you are a joker, my dear. In 2014/2015 I know a sister who wanted to marry so badly that any small spiritual brother she sees, and she begins to get close😁.
She will be praying to God to let him see me na😀. One evangelist saw her quickly, shebi she no want to get sense😂. But thank God she ran back to God....oluwa I forgot to ask, is it your will? Oluwa say I no send you work o🙃.
I remember listening to a short video clip some months ago. The man of God shares a bitter truth. That after your sindi ke ke sindi ke ke "We pay bills here on earth.
No, be by prayers o. Mind your prayer is very good am not condemning it. In fact, am a product of prayer. But on earth here, we pay bills.
What I'm I saying.....Until you don't have an opinion...like Adam....you will keep making mistakes
When do I say yes... When I'm ready to be An help meet Or help mate. Long story cut short.
You can only help when you have qualifying attributes.
You no learn work, no trade, no education, no plans for the future.....naaah. Remember you cannot give what you don't have.
As a man also as a woman... you must condition your mind to be an help mate. When Isaac saw Rebecca, his heart clung to her... They were of like mind.
If a godless brother picks you up in the church with deceit, it Is your fault ma.
Finally where I'll like to stop.
When do I say yes... When I'm physically and spiritually ready.
A sister told God some time ago that he should not give her a husband until she has yielded completely, no matter her age.
She never know she was setting a trap for me 😂. Ahh...when time started going, by fire by force she know she have only one prayer to make.
God Break me and remold me🙇🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️. She prayed and fasted for her life ....not for the husband she wanted to marry.
She knew her life needed to be helped, only then will she see what God has for her.
Whenever she remembers Jacob, Leah, and Rebecca's story she just reconfirms that nothing good comes easy.
Jacob labored for what he wanted, he wasn't even trying to please Rachel....he knew what he had to do and he faced his mission/missions squarely.
Physical stability is also one attribute very important in marriage. Speaking in tongues will not pay house rent o🙈. Of course, we can have nothing except what we are given by God....but our father blessed the work of our hands also.
A servant must be diligent at his doorpost.
Matt25:28 Take therefore the talent from him and give it unto him which hath ten talents.......
Everyone has something to contribute. The bible says wisdom is profitable to direct. I pray for the wisdom of God to help us navigate through every relationship crisis we are going through and I pray that the ultimate will of God be done in that relationship.
Lord bless these words in our hearts....water it so that we will learn not to forget. Stay blessed and happy Sunday.
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