If I have failed, I tell myself that it is because others have not supported me enough. Not because I haven't tried it. If my teenage son has failed every class, it's because teachers don't know how to fulfill their role. And not because I have a problem that I do not see.

 

Rationalization builds a series of judgments that prevent us from facing specific reality. A mental trap that many of us have fallen into at some point in our lives.

 

Rationalization: definition and mechanisms by which we apply it

 

We can define rationalization as creating a series of arguments that try to be plausible enough to justify something we don't really want to accept. This is an attempt to convince himself that "in the end, what happened is not so bad."

 

Meanwhile ... what are the consequences of not being able to visualize an error, failure, or inconvenience?

The consequences are obvious: you repeat the same mistakes

over and over. Marcel Proust in his work "In Search of Lost Time" uttered unforgettable words. While happiness is good for the body and mind, pain causes us to change and improve.

 

Not wanting to see that we are in pain, we fall into the trap of denial, ignorance and constant suffering.

The rationalizer invests heavily in developing complex arguments to justify his weaknesses, mistakes, or shortcomings. For example, this is done by a man who does not find the perfect partner. And he claims that, in his opinion, no one matches his value. In fact, he is so shy that he does not dare to date anyone.

 

How can we become more aware of the realities we need to face in order to achieve well-being and peace of mind? In truth, it is not easy to remove those glasses that can apply bright filters to events in the shade.

In an effort to remove the burden of failure or error, we create very powerful stories that serve as lifesavers. But these life jackets are made of tissue paper, and at the slightest wave of turbulence, we will go down again. So what can you do in order not to resort to these psychological mechanisms?

 

The first resource that can help us in these circumstances is to always ask ourselves why. Let's ask ourselves why this happened. Before resorting to speculation and self-deception, let's think about it.

Courage also lies in realizing that you are prone to be wrong. Without looking back, saying that "everything was not so scary, I will deal with everything again."