Raising child

Greetings to all, friends! How are you today?

 

Today is a post-reflection on how to raise an obedient and respectful child. Psychologists are right when they say that everything comes from childhood. A child is always born happy and joyful. And it only depends on the parents what kind of child they will grow up with.

 

An obedient one who will hear what his parents say to him. Understand where it's bad and where it's good. And only adults are responsible for the behavior of children, they should educate children by their own example. For example, today we visited my husband's daughter. We had to pick up the children from school and kindergarten, then take the older one to basketball. The elder Martino is now 6 years old. The youngest Jozue is 4 years old.

 

When my daughter was pregnant with her eldest, first child, she was the happiest woman. The whole pregnancy was smiling and was generally not very similar to herself. By nature, she is a woman who is poorly restrained in expressions, although she is a professor of biology. I can't say that she is well-mannered, because she got an explosive character from her father. At home, she can shout and speak in raised tones. When Martino was born, he was a beautiful child, almost 4.5 kg, big, looked almost 3 months old. And this child was happy exactly until the moment when the younger brother appeared.

 

Then he got less and less attention, then he was small. But by virtue of his nature, the elder is very much connected with his mother. They have the strongest connection and the child always told his mother - I adore you, mom!

 

The second pregnancy was nervous. She could no longer be happy, because she had to work, breastfeed her eldest, cook dinners, clean the house. My husband is at work all the time, he is a lawyer. And after the birth of the youngest, she stopped having time to do anything at all. In Italy, a woman can only be on paid parental leave for 5 months, and then you either have to leave work or give the child to a nursery. We helped as much as we could. And the youngest was also born a very sweet child. Gentle, soft, loved to cuddle! But when he grew up, of course, a struggle for mom's attention began between the brothers. And Mom is nervous!

 

She didn't want to be restrained, didn't want to talk calmly to the children and explain to them with great patience... She started raising her voice at them, thinking that this way they would learn to listen to her and hear what she was saying. But they were kids, they didn't understand why, because they want to be with mom, she screams at them. I always told my husband that it was very bad. Kids will get used to mom's screams, then they will stop listening to her at all as soon as they grow up. And the husband is also not the best educator, he has no patience at all, he immediately begins to speak in raised tones. And I think the two of them ruined Junior. He stopped being a sweet child.

 

He is probing the boundaries and is already beginning to understand that he is beginning to lead the family. Everyone listens to him, Martino does not want to argue with him and, because of his good character, tries to give in to him, thinking that Josue will appreciate it. But not like that, the younger one will get used to command the older one and stop listening to him. He almost doesn't hear his mother anymore, he doesn't react to screams...

 

What am I writing all this for. I'm worried about what will grow out of the younger one? In the park, he only plays with a boy who likes to punch other children. They kick each other, fight, are the only ones out of all the children, and there can be up to 50 children in the children's park. Only these two play such bad games, all the other children play very peacefully among themselves. Last time I told my daughter that I didn't like Jozue's friend, a militant boy, but she somehow reacted weakly.

 

There is still hope that the younger one will grow up and change for the better, because he has another friend, a good boy, kind.

 

In general, everything comes from the family and in many ways the bad behavior of the child is primarily the fault of the parents, and then the influence of others, friends, and so on. But parents, as usual, do not see their guilt...

 

 

 

What do you think friends?