The 7 traits this popular psychologist has found in successful couples.

Economic crisis, professional workload, tiredness of civil life or social media all kinds of challenges - the modern marital relationship is facing tough challenges. But beyond all these, there are not few examples of happy, healthy couples who survive the marathon of relationships beautifully. Popular French psychologist, couple therapist, influencer and author Nicole Lepera has identified 7 'patterns' in successful couples.

Who is this Nicole Lepera?

Nicole holds a bachelor's and master's degree in clinical psychology from Cornell University in New York, USA. He then worked as a researcher at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis in Pennsylvania. Working as a psychologist and therapist for over a century. This 40-year-old couple therapist's book 'How to Be the Love You Seek' published in 2023 is a 'New York Times Best Seller'. His number of followers on social media Instagram has exceeded 87 lakhs. And he has 10 lakh followers on X.

Nicole Lepera shares these 7 traits of successful couples on both social media platforms. What are they, let's find out.

1. Safe boundaries with family

If you 'complain' to your parents about your partner, then you are not yet of 'marriageable age'. Mentally you are still in the school-college boundary. Marriage did not turn out to be worth mentioning. Keep your marital relationship secret from family. Draw safe boundaries. It is healthy for both the family you come from and the family you are building. Without this balance, complexity will increase.

2. Having a bad time together

The more difficult times a couple goes through together, the stronger their relationship becomes. Bad days, bad times—'vulnerable' times for relationships. If that time doesn't crack about them, it becomes much easier for them to get through the normal time well. If you go through hard times early in the relationship, it's like passing the test.

3. "tough talk"

If you can have the most difficult conversations with your partner, it means your relationship is strong. There are many things that are difficult for you to say, difficult for him to accept, difficult for both of you to talk about, but this discussion is necessary. Without hesitation, if you can have that conversation, that too is like passing the relationship test.

4. Argue logically

Arguments, resentments, disagreements or misunderstandings are a normal reality in all relationships. Put your relationship first, don't hurt your partner personally, don't bring up old topics—just 'argue' to solve the problem!

5. Both are best friends

Physical attraction diminishes over time in a relationship. The need to spend time with each other and talk decreases. But if the relationship is friendship - that claim never ends. If your partner is your best friend, you will be the first person to call him, happy or sad. Stay tuned everyday to share what happened throughout the day. Both of them will learn new things together, engage in social activities, travel around, face new experiences and add new colorful pictures to their memories. In this way, the 'spark' of the relationship is somehow kept alive by successful couples. Fall in love with your partner anew every day. Relationships never get old for them.