Love your fears - Don't worry – be hopy:)

Hi friends! This time we will talk about the negative and positive aspects of fear and ways to reduce overall anxiety. https://wmpics.pics/di-4F9UPFPS.jpg So, fears can be divided into two categories: > constructive and destructive Constructive fears include natural reactions of a healthy person, with the help of which Life protects itself. These are fears of immediate danger, such as the fear of getting burned, freezing, falling from a great height and the like. The second category we conditionally attribute fears and anxieties that are not based on an immediate threat to human life. These are such concerns as, for example, fear of uncertainty, fear of losing anything, work, partner, money, existing lifestyle, fears of the type, and what if... I can't do anything if the irreparable happens. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33027153_1701681463241240_2404836752641490944_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=354495c2c3eef545b7bd349111cda36c&oe=5B8C21CE Fears of this kind can be defined as looking into an unknown future with negative expectations. They literally poison our lives. Because, by giving in to too much excitement, we put the control of our reality in the hands of these very fears. Spending a huge amount of life force on empty experiences, we run the risk to make a reality of everything that we are so afraid of. Fears from this category stand on the way to the fulfillment of our desires, they are trying to “carefully protect” us from everything that can shake the usual way of life. And it is to such fears, as a rule, that the term “overcome” or “overcome”is used. Unfortunately, both the struggle with fears and the attempt to escape from them, to dismiss them, to pretend that they do not exist at all, will not lead to anything good. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33174545_1701681479907905_7577804975804252160_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=0187366a4a7185ab9116c2b5217183f8&oe=5B8D90D6 ### The first misconception in dealing with fears is to fight them Fighting fears is useless, resistance only increases fear, and the level of anxiety from this only increases. Instead of fighting, it is necessary to build relationships, learn to negotiate with their fears or, as psychologists say, to negotiate with their fearful part of the person. ### For a deeper understanding, the following Association can help Remember, as a child, my mother took care of us little. How afraid and worried about every little thing: “put on a jacket, and then freeze, do not go there, do your homework, do not be friends with him or her.”.. So our anxious part of the person actually does the same job: worried and worried, in order to protect us from any, even non-existent danger. Only one awareness of the nature of this part, understanding that it is only trying to protect, but not to harm, helps to reduce the overall level of anxiety. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33072617_1701681439907909_4738736824694865920_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=96c1650cddfd3667e3418273910a9838&oe=5B7D5DAB Further, it will be very effective to make a habit, each time experiencing anxiety, mentally thank yourself, or this worried part of your personality, as a caring mother, for warning about the possible danger, thereby expressing their respect for her. But at the same time not to transfer to the fear control over a situation. It's like letting your mom sit next to you in the car, but not letting her grab the wheel. In other words, let the alarm be and perform its warning function, but not control. This approach will give the opportunity to keep the situation in their hands. You will continue to act, to go to your goals more calmly and consciously, soberly aware of their own fears and fears. As they say: "eyes are afraid, but hands do." https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33194559_1701681383241248_5039987261060415488_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=863142cc7a7ca95eabfcfdaf81b576ba&oe=5B9042C9 ### The second most common mistake in dealing with fears is the desire to run away from them or to ignore them by pretending that they don't exist It is impossible to escape from oneself and one's anxieties. This should be understood and not try to avoid all situations that cause excitement. The desire to avoid any stress leads to the fact that a person, faced with the slightest irritant factor or even a hint of an unpleasant situation, experiences a deep nervous shock. It is like the immune system of the child is reduced from the excessive guardianship of parents. Therefore, instead of avoiding their fears, it is necessary to recognize their presence, to understand their nature and learn how to manage them. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/s2048x2048/33113930_1701667136576006_5901752528944496640_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=87fd13d05b97eed47c00717981e360a8&oe=5B87E043 You can learn to interact with your fears and even use them for your own benefit by gradually and intentionally changing your personal worldview from a negative view of the future to the positive, from fears and anxieties to hope. Instead of worrying, each time thinking about the negative outcome of a particular situation, to teach yourself to deliberately redirect the course of your thoughts to a positive scenario of its development. Neuroscientists argue that the stress and the emotion of fear in small doses is beneficial to health of human body. It turns out that moderate doses of stress reduce overall anxiety. Moreover, in cases of such severe types of fears, like fear to go outside after the robbery, or fear to be back behind the wheel of a car after a serious accident, etc. Modern psychologists recommend in any case not to give into fear and avoid evening walks or driving. On the contrary, in order not to allow the fear to take hold, you need to start to go out as soon as possible or to go behind the wheel. In General, you should almost immediately begin to do exactly that which causes the most intense fear. This approach allows you to quickly get rid of Psychotrauma and return to a full life. If I, for example, had this information a few years ago, I would not postpone my attempts to get behind the wheel again after a severe accident on the road. And so I still feel strong discomfort from driving... https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/s2048x2048/33098162_1701665203242866_5766078656707297280_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=198b22c4ab46fee54a015975df0a72fb&oe=5B8E1863 There is a huge number of different fears and phobias. If you enter in Internet search engine word "fear" or "phobia", you at least will be surprised, if not you'll be terrified, prejudice huge number of various phobias and fears subject to humanity. From fear of confined space or fear of flying a plane to fear of moths of a certain kind. If you are a very suspicious and anxious nature with a fine spiritual organization and tend to execute yourself for everything, including your own fears, then remember how many famous and famous people suffered and suffer from various fears and phobias. I will say more, scientists argue that more sensitive people, those who tend to worry more and worry, are at a higher stage of development, compared to those who, as they say, do not take anything in my head. Simply, instead of hiding from your fears, it is much more profitable to recognize and understand them, and then learn to manage them and even use them for the benefit of yourself and the World. Such outstanding artists as Vincent van Gogh and Salvador Dali, for example, repeatedly splashed out their numerous fears and phobias, so to speak, the dark side of his personality, on the canvas of his own paintings, later ranked among the great works of art. The list of fears of one of my favorite filmmakers woody Allen is just phenomenal. He openly says that he is afraid of the crowd, germs, height, sunlight and much more. All his fears and anxieties are constantly reflected in his movies. Where his unique directness, sarcasm and ability to make fun of their own phobias and shortcomings, make his films unique and make smile, well, think millions of people. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33132471_1701664339909619_4182370940174204928_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=9130d16af2aeb313f65ca32a4ec97089&oe=5B982009 ### It is not necessary to deny that all of us feel pleasure and feel more vividly the taste of life from overcoming our fears and weaknesses So we feel that we are developing, we are not standing still. Therefore, it makes little sense to hide his head in the sand in an attempt to protect himself from his fears, if they are. Philosophy of “Don't worry, be happy” (don't worry, be happy) there is unlikely to help. You can and should work with fears. Now there is a lot of literature about fear and anxiety. For my part, I can recommend an excellent book by neuroscientist John Arden “taming the Amygdala.” https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://imgp.golos.io/0x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/33049624_1701681493241237_2843952692861075456_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=c3e8254210ffee15a18701bf3e2ef40c&oe=5B8253CB ### In the end, I will remind you once again about a simple method that can provide tangible assistance in independent work with fears. Each time worrying and thinking about the negative outcome of a situation, to teach yourself to deliberately redirect the course of your thoughts to a positive scenario of its development. After all, destructive fear is a view to the future with negative expectations, and hope is a view to the future in positive expectations. So, you need to accustom yourself to replace the vain anxiety with hope for the best. https://steemitimages.com/640x0/https://scontent-vie1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/s2048x2048/33028570_1701664746576245_5525808191780159488_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=24ccdbf04d7927c095fdcea68fd0f6e2&oe=5B95BA90 If in the famous English phrase “don't worry – be happy” replace the letter “a” in the word “happy” with the letter “o”, you will get the expression “don't worry – be hoppy” (from the English word “hope” – hope) – do not worry in vain – hope for the best. Don't worry -- be hopy :-)