Is it worth keeping a person if he decided to leave?...

Parting is always painful. Especially for the side that didn't want this breakup.

At the moment when the parting words are said, when the still beloved, but already alien and distant partner leaves, the second still has hope.

The hope that everything can be changed. The hope that all this is a farce and a temporary cloud. The hope that his love will be enough for both of them.

How justified is this hope, and is it worth returning the person?

First, let's remember the main reasons why a person leaves: He realized that he is worse off with you than alone. You drove him away yourself. He met someone else who is currently a more significant figure for him. He says that he wants freedom, that he has not yet walked up.

As for the first two reasons, it is worth asking yourself a question. Is it possible and necessary to fix everything? If you return it now, if you become silky, compliant and even perfect, how long will you be able to last in this mode? The old problems will not go away.

If you understand that you yourself went too far and were wrong, then it is worth considering the issue of returning. The main thing is not to make a scandal and not to aggravate the situation. It is better to think about everything, tune in to the positive and talk to your partner a little later, admit your mistakes, agree on some kind of joint action plan. Not always, but it works. Especially when both sides have feelings and there is no one on the side.

There is a third group of reasons. When he goes to someone specific, when the choice is not made in your favor. If you now beg for love from him, connect manipulation through the suggestion of a sense of guilt or a sense of fear, then there will be no positive long - term effect.

You will further strengthen the ego of a man, because it is so pleasant for him that a woman clings to him and fights. He may even return, but the story on the side is unlikely to stop. Pity, condescension, the desire to get comfort and avoid scandals-this is not love. Such a relationship cannot be glued together.

The only reasonable way out in such a situation is to calmly let go, having discussed how issues regarding children, everyday life and other areas will be resolved. It is far from a fact that everything will grow together in another harbor. To those who do not find the strength not to humiliate themselves and build their own life, they return much more willingly. And another question arises: do you want to take the person back?

And as for the fourth group of reasons. I went for freedom, I went for bright impressions. Here the situation is comparable to the reasons from group number three.

You are not covering the current needs of this person. He believes that somewhere beyond the horizon, someone brighter, more interesting and generally more suitable is waiting for him. Moreover, you should not cling. Letting go without reproaches causes more respect and interest than clinging.

So is it worth holding or not? First, it depends on the reasons. Secondly, you should not rush to react. It is better to weigh everything calmly and think about it. Thirdly, you have every right and opportunity to talk normally with a person and express your position to him. For example, to say that no matter what, you love, wait and are ready to accept.

If there is such a desire – then who prevents you from doing it? Only you need to speak clearly, once. We need to be heard. Then your partner will make the decision himself. In any case, it is worth determining for yourself the line that you will not cross. It is necessary not so much for him as for you to preserve your self-respect.