Tarbiyah for Wives Forms a Sakinah Family ( one )

 WIFE is rabbatul bait (house builder). Coaching for wives is very necessary to make it an ideal figure to be emulated. In these mothers, many burdens are hung, so that heaven is depicted under the soles of her feet. To reach that ideal character, continuous attention is needed. The tarbiyah process for wives will help achieve the virtues of them. Like tarbiyah for husbands, tarbiyah for wives also has the following specific things. a. Self Quality Improvement Like husbands, wives also need to constantly improve their quality. The direction of Syaikh Hasan Al-Banna also applies to wives. Therefore, various wasilah (means) to improve self quality must always be endeavored. The wife must master a variety of basic sciences, namely the religious sciences to divided the dien of her children. What can the mother teach if she does not have the knowledge? He also must master the sciences that support all of them, namely the science of child education, psychology and child development, as well as practical knowledge about nutrition and health. All of that will become everyday demands that are difficult to be prepared suddenly. Aisha r.a. is one of the role models for women. Exemplary in science problems has been exemplified by him. Urwah bin Zubair once said, "I do not see people who understand more about the content of the Koran, its obligations, halal haram, poetry, Arabic proverbs, and the science of nasab, except Ayesha. I don't see people who understand more about fiqh issues, medicine, and poetry, except Ayesha. " Urwah's opinion was reinforced by Ibn Abdul Bar, "Ayesha was the only friend who mastered the three sciences of her time: fiqh, medicine, and poetry." Atha 'bin Abi Rubah and Miqdad bin Al-Aswad had similar opinions. Muslim wives should also pay attention to the improvement of scientific quality needed for self-benefit, family, society, and Islamic da'wah in general. If we consider from the example of the figure of Aisha r.a., she mastered fiqh, medicine, and poetry. For the wives of Muslim women, fiqh is very much needed for mastery, especially with regard to practical problems in the household. Health or medicine is needed because the mother must know the basics of practical treatment, to do first aid when a family member is affected by an illness or disaster. Likewise with the basics of understanding about medicines so as not to be wrong in using the drug itself. While the science of poetry, it is possible that today can develop into other forms of art, such as Islamic nasyid. For mothers, it will be a method to educate and teach their children. Of course it will be very interesting for children, if they get interesting and not boring teaching methods, because there is a nasyid interlude or poetry. Tarbiyah for wives should pay attention to aspects of scientific and intellectual development. Even though most Muslim women live in the house, it does not mean that it is identical to being old and stupid. In fact, they can remain smart and be sharpened by the various teaching facilities that are possible to do, while doing housework. b. Motherhood Feelings Development The role of a mother is overwhelming. Mothers are role models for children, especially girls. He is the place to ask various problems, both concerning fiqhun nisa ', psychology, social, and various other problems faced by children. Therefore, a mother needs to foster a sense of motherhood, warm love, gentle answers, and courtesy in relationships. He must be smart to answer every question from the child so that the answer is at the same time as the planting of values, not just a momentary problem solving. c. Coaching Will and Ability to Do Aulad Tarbiyatul As a mother, she has the obligation to marry her children with Islamic formation. If the tendency to 'become' a mother has not yet emerged, the development of her children will tend to be neglected. With tenderness, compassion, and attention, he educates children to become the next generation who can be expected to continue the struggle of their predecessors. As a mother, she does not deserve to spoil her children by fulfilling all their wishes. The thing that needs to be done is to provide educational supplies that will grow their positive potential. The sahabiah have exemplified how they have created a quality generation. Is a sahabiah named Afra r.a. He educated his two young children, Auf and Mu'adz, to love Islam and be ready to defend the truth. When the Battle of Badr occurred between Muslims against the unbelievers of Quraysh, the two departed with the army of the Muslims. Abdurrahman bin Auf praised the two young men, because of their courage to advance to the battlefield and choose an opponent who was unmitigated; Abu Jahal bin Hisham, kingpin of the infidels. Similarly, Khansa r.a. who offered his four sons to become defenders of Islam. He educated his four children diligently and full of attention, so that they grew into powerful men who were ready to defend the truth. One time, Khansa r.a. intestate to his children, "O my heart, with full awareness and obedience you enter Islam, and at your own choice you also emigrate. If you see a war raging, hurry up and rush to the center of the battlefield and be the ones in the first row. Surely you will get luck and glory on an eternal and eternal day. " The story of Nusaibah binti Ka'ab r.a. (Ummu Amarah) is also no less touching. In one battle, Nusaibah's son said, "When blood continued to pour from my arm, the Prophet said, 'Wrap your wound!' My mother immediately approached me carrying a bandage cloth on her waist which had been prepared to treat wounded troops. He then wrapped my wound and the Prophet stood looking at me. After finishing my mother said, ‘Arise O my Son, and fight those ungodly men!’ See the scene of the mother and child, Rasulullah Shalallaahu ‘Alahi Wasallam said, yang Are there people who can do what you do, O Ummah` Anger? '” Various fragments in the history of the life of the Prophet Shalallaahu ‘Alahi Wasallam and the sahabiah illustrate how mothers at that time performed tarbiyatul aulad. The results of their children's education are extraordinary. There have been strong cadres who are ready to defend and fight for the truth; not ecstasy generation; nor is it a teler generation who always lives in a fantasy world. Muslim women should deepen the various tarbiyatul aulad lattices so that their children are able to become a generation of desires of the people. *