Male house and family head, director and controller. He has been created for this purpose and he has been qualified for it, so his status in the field of life struggle is the same and he has been given this status because he is responsible for bearing the mohrana and expenses. Therefore, the wife has no right to disobey him and to act outside of obedience, to be disobedient and to disobey him. If this is done then the relationship is bound to get very bad. It is not impossible that the ship of the world will sink and sink completely due to the absence of any real boatman.
When the husband notices that he is being disobeyed by the wife, the wife is raising her head against him, then he should try his best to correct her by giving good advice, rational and touching speech. But if the admonition does not work, she should be avoided in her bed, so that feminine sentiments may be awakened in her and she may eventually surrender and become obedient.
If this management is not effective then hands can be raised on it. But saying that extreme beatings, harassment and slapping on the face should not be allowed at all, it should be avoided completely. For some women, mild beatings can be very beneficial and invigorating. Beating does not mean beating with a whip or a stick. There is a clear light in this marriage from a saying of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Some of his servants were angry with him for some special work. Then he said that if there was no system of revenge on the Day of Resurrection, I would have hit you with this miswak.
Why does one of you beat his wife as the master beats his slave? And then maybe she'll have sex with him at night.
Those of you who are good people will never beat their wives. It is clear from the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him) that it is quite permissible to kill wives. But his right time is when the husband finds disobedience in the matter of his wife's duty to obey him. In such a case, he can kill her for the purpose of forcing her to obey. However, if the work goes away due to intimidation, then the mayhem must be avoided. Because in that, the hatred towards the husband becomes intense in the mind of the wife. And that is the opposite of a harmonious marriage. But that is the real goal of married life, but if he has to be killed in any matter related to disobedience to Allah, it is a separate matter.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never killed any of his wives or servants. He never raised his hand to kill anyone else. However, if someone is punished in the way of Allah or for the sake of disrespecting the dignity of Allah, it is a completely separate matter.
But even if these measures fail and become ineffective and there is a danger that the differences will widen and deepen, then the influential and benevolent people of the Islamic society will intervene and try to rectify the situation. Her approach is to appoint an arbitrator on behalf of the husband and an arbitrator on behalf of the wife, who will actually be beneficial to both. They will try to reconcile the couple and resolve the dispute that has arisen, then Allah will surely reconcile them. God is being declared in all these matters.
Understand and advise the wives about whom you fear rebellion and disobedience. Leave them in your beds and beat them. Then if they obey you, do not blame them. Surely you know that God is high and great. And if you fear separation, appoint one from among the husband's relatives and one from the wife's relatives. If the two of them really try to correct it, then God will reconcile them. Surely Allah is Knowing, Aware.
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