Motivating A Child Coming From A Broken Family

http://www.abc.net.au/reslib/201402/r1232754_16267872.jpg Source As teachers, it is normal that we encounter children with different backgrounds. We may face students who are polite and kind, while at the same time, we will also encounter students who are rude and disrespectful, or maybe even a little bit of both. As teachers, it is very important to understand our students’ characteristics, for us to be able to develop and guide them. Teachers should always be able to develop a way to deal with students who face problems in their lives preventing them to learn effectively. For example, we can encounter a child who comes to school on time, never bothers his friends, dresses well, very polite, yet in the face of a lecture, stares blankly into the yonder or pretty much day dreaming. If that were to happen, the teacher should really find out what kind of problems the child is facing. If we can identify the problem through a one on one conversation, it would be easy for us to determine a way to help. http://progressiegerichtwerken.nl/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Students-Should-Be-Motivated-By-Their-Teachers.jpg Source A child’s character reflects on his personal background. Generally speaking, a child who comes from a good family are likely to be kind and polite, while those that comes from troubled families may produce problematic children. In school, we can find many problematic children whose family backgrounds are not really in good shape such as those coming from a broken family. These types of children can often be seen disturbing other kids, becoming difficult for the teachers, or choosing to be as stubborn as a rock. But in actuality, these children are just longing for affection as they have none of this at home with their parent’s conflicts. Conflicts that may come in the form of the mother arguing with the father, or even seeing the father becoming violent against their mother. These conflicts, more often than not, affect the children’s psyche. It will be very difficult for a child to concentrate on the lessons having these conflicts in mind all the time. These children are definitely in need of special attention from their teachers. Teachers can help out by inviting the child for a simple private conversation. A conversation where it is imperative for it to go unnoticed by others, most especially the child’s peers. It is the teacher’s responsibility to help these children rise above adversities. There are definitely plenty of ways in motivating a child’s spirit, such as letting them know how their parents would embrace them as tight as they could in joy if they would succeed in school. But our efforts as teachers does not end there, as it can even reach the student’s parents. We can let these parents know the condition their children are in, and how much their children are in need of their affection, or how much they need to become exemplary examples for their children. Only with the help of the parents would we be able to improve the child’s situation. http://www.pbs.org/parents/expert-tips-advice/files/2015/08/childrenmotivation-e1439830833306.jpg Source ### Conclusion A child from a broken family is a child who has not experienced a harmonious familial environment where parents are often disagreeable, loud, or even divorced. The psychiatric state of this child will unlikely be unstable, naughty, temperamental or even uncomfortably quiet. Children facing these kinds of problems at home normally closes their emotion maybe from the feeling of embarrassment, as they are able to see their friends both having and enjoying familial harmony. Apart from the feeling of embarrassment, depression is likely to manifest as well as they end up comparing their situation with the others and knowing how unfair, life can be. It is important for the parents to be aware of these things before it's too late, failing to do so could result catastrophically for the child’s future. At the same time, teachers should also be able to pay attention to the different behaviors seen from a child that may have had to go home to a broken family. Reach out to them and talk to them, offer a helping hand to guide them and motivate them. When you do, remember to tread lightly and be careful when asking personal questions most especially in front of their peers, doing so may develop insecurities in these children. Always talk to these children in school and listen to them with your heart so that they may be able to feel appreciated by you. Never stop motivating these children with positive things.